Hockey is India’s national Sport, but every passing days from some years Hockey lost its shine, interest and hold from the mind of Indians. There are lot of reason of it & to name few is Indian Hockey’s desperate poor performance at International big events like Asian Games, Olampics Games (Even in year 2008 Olympics Games which held in Beijing, China Indian Hockey unable to Qualify and it’s the first time in the history of Olympics that Indian Hockey was our rather unable to Qualify), its resultant India’s ranking at world level going downwards, second India is leg behind to catch up fast technique of western world. It take Indians fan to look other sports to see its team competitive and won events at international level, and India’s Victory in the world cup of cricket in 1983 which was hard to believe that any team can beat (at that time Invincible in Cricket) West Indies, India become crazy for Cricket and its popularity keep on rising and today without any doubt India become of Hub of Cricket in terms of Money, Tournaments and league.
ICC ( International Cricket Council ) governing body of Cricket in the world previously it was based in London but some years back it move its headquarter to Dubai , it make rule and regulation & keep vigil eyes through its official so that every match played in good spirit. Right now below coded countries are permanent members of Cricket Sports and affiliated to ICC :-
· Australia
· Bangladesh
· England
· India
· New Zealand
· Pakistan
· Sri Lanka
· South Africa
· West Indies
· Zimbabwe
And make itinerary of series between each country for coming years up to ten years and every country’s respective boards is bound / liability to play the series without any excuse if they cancel series then visiting country has to face huge financial penalty but yes political environment of the country count very much and players/team security get top priority and Pakistan is victim of this because lot of series either was delayed ( recently one day world cup was delayed for one years as lot of countries plus there players were not interested to play tournament in Pakistan ) or cancel simply because of there security reason, and Pakistan losses lot of money because of delayed or cancel series, now they (Pakistan Cricket Board ) are planning to host any coming series in Dubai not in there country ,so that they stand for there commitment with ICC and not lost Revenue.
Cricket Game is played between two countries under three different category, they are
Test Match
Test Match is a game which is spread over five days, and every team has to play two times. In a day bowling team has to Bowl 90 Overs minimum in the time span of six hours and there are some pauses in a day play like every hours there is drink break, then there is lunch break ,tea break, and if fielding side team deliver slow bowling rate then they fine at the end of match. Players have to play the game in white dress. If Batting side first batting make lot of run, and if fielding side make small score (less then 200 runs score by other team ) then fielding captain has option to impose follow on, and if then again batting make less run made by first batting side then they lost with an inning. There are two umpire on the field who conduct the game under rules make by the ICC,Both umpire from neuter Countries means from other countries which is not playing, one third umpire, and one match referee ,who is judicator of fair game and if found any players guilty of misbehave or crossing the line of law, then he within law/rule set by ICC pass on his verdict. Some well known field points are
· Slips
· Gully
· Short leg
· Long leg
· Third man
· Silly point
· Deep fine leg
· Fine leg
· Leg slips
· Silly mid off
· Cover
· Extra cover
· Mid off
· Long off
· Long on
· Mid on
· Short leg
· Forward short leg
· Square leg
· Deep square leg
· Short mid wicket
· Midwicket
· Deep midwicket
· Mid on
· Bowler
· Wicket keeper
And a batsman is declared out under below coded circumstances and he have to left the crease and other player has to come and start batting :-
· Catch out
· Lbw
· Bowled
· Time out
· Hit the bowl twice
· Handle the bowl
· Hit wicket
· Obstructing the fielder
· Run out
· Stumped
· Retired hurt
Current ranking of team in test match
1. Australia
2. South Africa
3. India
4. Sri lanka
5. England
6. Pakistan
7. New Zealand
8. West Indies
9. Bangladesh
One day International
Second type of series played between two countries is One day International and it was very much popular after India’s victory on West Indies in the years 1983 at Lords. Host country allowed to have one umpire from there country and one from neuter country, third umpire and match referee appointed by ICC.Every Team has to played 50 overs ( previously it was even played 60 overs and three world cup held in England was played with 60 overs ) but because in some country day light is not for enough time to deliver in a day 120 overs its reduce to 50 overs ,know it is played under light also but its still played 50 overs by a side. Players are allowed to wear colour clothes,Use white bowl,and after thirty five overs bowl changed as per the condition of used bowl .One bowler can bowl only 10 overs and fielding captain can use as many bowlers as he want barring wicket keeper.Fieding Team has to bowl fifty overs in three and half hours.If during match rain fall then if first team played its 50 overs and second team played minimum 25 overs then result declared on the basis of Duckwoth lewis Method.
Current standing of all the team in Cricket are
Australia
South Africa
England
New Zealand
India
Pakistan
Sri Lanka
West Indies
Bangladesh
Ireland
Zimbabwe
Kenya
Twenty 20 Match
Recently added twenty 20 game in Cricket and its inaugural ICC World Twenty 20 2007 won by India ,Its popular in India so much that it leave behind both above coded forms far behind, it has the biggest reason that its time span to complete a game is just three hours, players are allowed to wear colour clothes ,but one player can deliver only 4 overs .In very short time viewer get full entertainment .Next world cup is going to held in 2010 in West Indies.
It can just be imagine with this that how much its popular among Indians is that M/s Zee Essel Group announce of ICL of Twenty20 with young buddy and international players,and before it start even BCCI announce they will also start IPL.
ICL
Its first started by Zee Group in India and it has below coded team right now and tournament second season is being played between below coded team
· Chandigarh Lion
· Chennai Superstar
· Delhi Giants
· Hyderabad Heroes
· Royal Bengal Tigers
· Mumbai Champs
· Lahore badshahs
· Ahmdabad Rockets
IPL
BCCI announced its league by name IPL and it give franchisee to corporates for ten years periods
Mumbai Indian Reliance Indian $111.9 million
Royal Challengers Bangalore UB Group $ 111.6 million
Hyderabad Deccan Charger Deccan Chronicle $ 107 million
Chennai Super king India Cement and N. Srinivasan $ 91 million
Delhi Daredevil GMR Holdings $ 84 million
Kings XI Punjab Preity Zinta, Ness Wadia,
Karan Paul (Apeejay Surendera Group)
and Mohit Burman (Dabur) $ 76 million
Kolkata Knight Riders Shahrukh Khan, Juhi Chawla Mehta
and Jai Mehta (Red Chillies Entertainment) $ 75.09 million
Rajasthan Royals Emerging Media: (A.R Jha, Lachlan Murdoch,
Suresh Chellaram) $ 67 million
So now India is hub of world Cricket where not only it has commitment of ICC,but also become stage of its two league ICL and IPL,and Corporate are ready to pay huge money on to cricket directly or indirectly directly on to game getting series name with there brand, making brand ambassador to cricketers ,then hiring air time during match, putting boards around stadium.
For a Cricketers if he is serious to have Cricket as his career then he has lot of options to make his career in Cricket and safe future with records and money.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Big Boss: Season 2
Now-a-days programme aired on Colors Channel is become buzz reason some find its vulgar to watch alongwith family and some has opinion its interesting and it contain nothing like that whom we can call Vulgar. Its matter of another debate because today I am not going to involve myself in this controversy instead leave on to the reader what’s there opinion on to this –n- they can left there point of view by comments here, but there is no doubt that with this controversy the Colors Channel T.R.P. is touching new heights, as Channel is getting publicity and it attract viewers to watch this programme what it has which making people to talk a lot? For Colors channel it’s a boon in the environment of very hard competition as every channel’s ultimate goal is to get huge following/viewers so that they attract corporate ,result will be rush of advertisement .
Just to share some information about Big Boss programme.Personalities from different field like actor, politition, singer etc.etc. and they have to spent together almost ninety days, but they have not any connection with the world by any mean, even they are not allowed to use cell phone, read newspaper, watch T.V..They are isolated here, and on every Monday everybody has to name two person for nomination and also have to give reason for nomination ,then nominated person’s stay purely based on the votes of the viewer, less number of votes become cause of there exit from the house. In the house in front of any person they are good but when he/she not with them become topics and they back bite a lot .In the end one person will be awarded as winner and will get prize. Its 54 day of housemates they are in the Big Boss House, below is about all the housemates and about every housemate they are ranked on the basis of there exit:-
Jade Goody
Jade Cerisa Lorraine Goody is a businesswoman, she become popular when she had confrontation (racial abuse) with Shilpa Shetty (Indian Actor –n- Participant) in the one of reality programme name BIG BROTHER in the year 2002 and at that time she was twenty one. Goody had publish her autobiography by title “Jade: My Autobiography” and also launch her fragrance “ Shh…”.She also wrote for some times weekly column to “ Now” magazine. She was first person to leave the BIGG BOSS house not because she was nominated and get less number of votes but her medical test reports was traced with Cancer, and she quit and flown back to England.
Sanjay Nirupam
Sanjay Nirupam born in Bihar States Rohtas Village, he spent his childhood there and after complete his school ,he then went to Patna for higher education.Sanjay Nirupam is in politics from student era ,and graduated in Arts (honours ) Political Science.
Rakhi Vijan
She become popular with her character she played in the drama serial “Hum Paanch” in which she was one of the five girl of a family and whole story moves around this family activities. Comedy is the field which is rule by the male actor but with her unique style she accepted as comedian.She just sign film of Raj Kanwar untitled film, plus some other films also in which she can be seen and they are going to release soon.
Monica Bedi
Monica Bedi was born I Punjab but when she was just 10 months old her parents moved to Norway. Monica Bedi met Manoj Kumar when she was studying in the Oxford University, where she was studying English literature. She also did some films by name Surksha, jaanam samja karo, Jodi no.1, Aashique Mastane, Pyaar Ishq aur Mohbaat.Now she again get chance to re enter in the Big Boss house Courtesy Wild Card. She is still there in the big boss house.
Ketaki Dave
Ketaki Dave is known for gujrati accent in the T.V. serials, she also did work in some Hindi films. She was being elder respected by every housemates plus until she stayed in the house, she was incahrge of kitchen .It was ketaki Dave child who want her to be in Big Boss house.
Alina Wadiwalla
Alina Wadiwalla is twenty one years old and she is wedding photographer by profession and by nature extroverted.Alliana is single and straight forward personality. Romantic by nature believe in serial dates to discover herself.Alliana is UK return Indian of Muslim origin. In the house everybody like her being younger most housemates but always found (believe) her she talk of one mates to other which usually meant for chatting but become reason of provking.She has twin who is almost like her watching from distance one can find it confusing if that is Alina or her sister.
Sambhavna Seth
Sambhavna Seth first seen in remix of aaj kal tere mere, and then seen in the films not in leading role or playing any character role but doing dance number which today is popularly known as item number. Her last number in film was of Subhash Ghai’s 36 China Town Her stay in the house make her most controversial house mates because of aggressive/short temper nature, rude language, quarreling and a liar.
Raja Chaudhary
Raja is also short tempered, but good by heart .He is TV Actor and ex husband of Shweta Tiwari when they was husband wife they played together main Villain character in bhojpuri film and also couple in nach bhalliye 2 a dance reality show. He was nominated four times and once when he was out of the house and nobody in the house even think that is a drama and he will join them again after the gap of two days but the biggest advantage was that he was keeping eyes on every character which help him to know everybody what they really think of him? When he return and told them about there behavior/thinking of another house mates it make them very pale.
Payal Rohtagi
She is talented model and actor upgrade her from b grade to main stream film, now doing some big banner film.
Ahsaan Qureshi
He left his teacher career to become stand up comedian; He is poet at heart and always have something to say about everyone. Till date he is one of the very few housemates whose name yet to nominate for elimination, there could be two reason for it one he never involve very much and with other housemates, second till date he kept away from any confrontation/controversy.
Ashutosh Kaushik
Ashutosh Kaushik won just concluded fifth season of MTV’s hip adventure reality show Roadies and it give lot of change in his life. He is from Saharanpur Uttar Pradesh and own Dhabha (very popular in north India) where tourist use to eat when they are out for journey reason is that one its cheap second it taste just like of home made food.
Debojit Saha
Debojit Saha is a singer by profession, he did lot of Reality show and comes in limelight with the Zee programme “Sa.Re.Ga.Ma”He is very soft spoken.he is very sensitive and don’t accept anybody’s criticism. When he came to know from Raja when he was out and have eyes on each and every housemates, then Raja notice that Ahsaan taken his name for elimination and gave reason that now he not sings but cry, he take it very seriously and talking to Diana ( one housemate ) he said it hurt him very much accepted he is elder but if some body point towards my singing then it hurt a lot, but problem is that I get this information indirectly so I have to ignore this. His source of inspiration is his wife.
Diana Hayden
Diana Hayden is Miss World 1997,She is Anglo Indian from Hyderabad, unfortunately her parents separated .She did graduation in English from Osmania University. After graduation she moved to Bangalore but then she again move to Bombay and did some work at her own like did modeling, manage fashion shows. She is independent and confident lady. her stay in BMG where she manage Aniada and Mehnaz,and it was Anaida who pressurize to send her pictures for MISS WORLD Contest and won the contest in the year 1997 which was held in Seychelles.
Rahul Mahajan
Rahul Mahajan is the only Son of Late Pramod Mahjan who was very famous politician in the country and from BJP Party, during period of NDA he set up Integral Production and made program for Doordarshan Tak Dina Din.
Zulfi Syed
Zulfi is shy by nature and love to travel and adventure. He not mix soon with others but takes time, he is professional model. he loves to cook. He is very intelligent because when Raja was out nobody predict that raja will come back but it was Zulfi who keep on saying to other housemates that its my gut feeling that he will come back even once he gave time that in next 48 hours he will be in house. he speaks less but wisely.
So that’s all about the housemates and all the programme is moving around them about there activities in the house,36 cameras in the house, Even single minute no housemate is allowed to put there speaker away. When Raja Chaudary was away mean out from the house in front of him everybody was good in talking, nice behavior but when he was out then venom was out from everybody’s talk against him, or relating to his nature. I also find this true always when a person is not present then everybody talk about his behavior, pick negative he has as he comes in front then there behavior change towards him….What a Contrast ?
Just to share some information about Big Boss programme.Personalities from different field like actor, politition, singer etc.etc. and they have to spent together almost ninety days, but they have not any connection with the world by any mean, even they are not allowed to use cell phone, read newspaper, watch T.V..They are isolated here, and on every Monday everybody has to name two person for nomination and also have to give reason for nomination ,then nominated person’s stay purely based on the votes of the viewer, less number of votes become cause of there exit from the house. In the house in front of any person they are good but when he/she not with them become topics and they back bite a lot .In the end one person will be awarded as winner and will get prize. Its 54 day of housemates they are in the Big Boss House, below is about all the housemates and about every housemate they are ranked on the basis of there exit:-
Jade Goody
Jade Cerisa Lorraine Goody is a businesswoman, she become popular when she had confrontation (racial abuse) with Shilpa Shetty (Indian Actor –n- Participant) in the one of reality programme name BIG BROTHER in the year 2002 and at that time she was twenty one. Goody had publish her autobiography by title “Jade: My Autobiography” and also launch her fragrance “ Shh…”.She also wrote for some times weekly column to “ Now” magazine. She was first person to leave the BIGG BOSS house not because she was nominated and get less number of votes but her medical test reports was traced with Cancer, and she quit and flown back to England.
Sanjay Nirupam
Sanjay Nirupam born in Bihar States Rohtas Village, he spent his childhood there and after complete his school ,he then went to Patna for higher education.Sanjay Nirupam is in politics from student era ,and graduated in Arts (honours ) Political Science.
Rakhi Vijan
She become popular with her character she played in the drama serial “Hum Paanch” in which she was one of the five girl of a family and whole story moves around this family activities. Comedy is the field which is rule by the male actor but with her unique style she accepted as comedian.She just sign film of Raj Kanwar untitled film, plus some other films also in which she can be seen and they are going to release soon.
Monica Bedi
Monica Bedi was born I Punjab but when she was just 10 months old her parents moved to Norway. Monica Bedi met Manoj Kumar when she was studying in the Oxford University, where she was studying English literature. She also did some films by name Surksha, jaanam samja karo, Jodi no.1, Aashique Mastane, Pyaar Ishq aur Mohbaat.Now she again get chance to re enter in the Big Boss house Courtesy Wild Card. She is still there in the big boss house.
Ketaki Dave
Ketaki Dave is known for gujrati accent in the T.V. serials, she also did work in some Hindi films. She was being elder respected by every housemates plus until she stayed in the house, she was incahrge of kitchen .It was ketaki Dave child who want her to be in Big Boss house.
Alina Wadiwalla
Alina Wadiwalla is twenty one years old and she is wedding photographer by profession and by nature extroverted.Alliana is single and straight forward personality. Romantic by nature believe in serial dates to discover herself.Alliana is UK return Indian of Muslim origin. In the house everybody like her being younger most housemates but always found (believe) her she talk of one mates to other which usually meant for chatting but become reason of provking.She has twin who is almost like her watching from distance one can find it confusing if that is Alina or her sister.
Sambhavna Seth
Sambhavna Seth first seen in remix of aaj kal tere mere, and then seen in the films not in leading role or playing any character role but doing dance number which today is popularly known as item number. Her last number in film was of Subhash Ghai’s 36 China Town Her stay in the house make her most controversial house mates because of aggressive/short temper nature, rude language, quarreling and a liar.
Raja Chaudhary
Raja is also short tempered, but good by heart .He is TV Actor and ex husband of Shweta Tiwari when they was husband wife they played together main Villain character in bhojpuri film and also couple in nach bhalliye 2 a dance reality show. He was nominated four times and once when he was out of the house and nobody in the house even think that is a drama and he will join them again after the gap of two days but the biggest advantage was that he was keeping eyes on every character which help him to know everybody what they really think of him? When he return and told them about there behavior/thinking of another house mates it make them very pale.
Payal Rohtagi
She is talented model and actor upgrade her from b grade to main stream film, now doing some big banner film.
Ahsaan Qureshi
He left his teacher career to become stand up comedian; He is poet at heart and always have something to say about everyone. Till date he is one of the very few housemates whose name yet to nominate for elimination, there could be two reason for it one he never involve very much and with other housemates, second till date he kept away from any confrontation/controversy.
Ashutosh Kaushik
Ashutosh Kaushik won just concluded fifth season of MTV’s hip adventure reality show Roadies and it give lot of change in his life. He is from Saharanpur Uttar Pradesh and own Dhabha (very popular in north India) where tourist use to eat when they are out for journey reason is that one its cheap second it taste just like of home made food.
Debojit Saha
Debojit Saha is a singer by profession, he did lot of Reality show and comes in limelight with the Zee programme “Sa.Re.Ga.Ma”He is very soft spoken.he is very sensitive and don’t accept anybody’s criticism. When he came to know from Raja when he was out and have eyes on each and every housemates, then Raja notice that Ahsaan taken his name for elimination and gave reason that now he not sings but cry, he take it very seriously and talking to Diana ( one housemate ) he said it hurt him very much accepted he is elder but if some body point towards my singing then it hurt a lot, but problem is that I get this information indirectly so I have to ignore this. His source of inspiration is his wife.
Diana Hayden
Diana Hayden is Miss World 1997,She is Anglo Indian from Hyderabad, unfortunately her parents separated .She did graduation in English from Osmania University. After graduation she moved to Bangalore but then she again move to Bombay and did some work at her own like did modeling, manage fashion shows. She is independent and confident lady. her stay in BMG where she manage Aniada and Mehnaz,and it was Anaida who pressurize to send her pictures for MISS WORLD Contest and won the contest in the year 1997 which was held in Seychelles.
Rahul Mahajan
Rahul Mahajan is the only Son of Late Pramod Mahjan who was very famous politician in the country and from BJP Party, during period of NDA he set up Integral Production and made program for Doordarshan Tak Dina Din.
Zulfi Syed
Zulfi is shy by nature and love to travel and adventure. He not mix soon with others but takes time, he is professional model. he loves to cook. He is very intelligent because when Raja was out nobody predict that raja will come back but it was Zulfi who keep on saying to other housemates that its my gut feeling that he will come back even once he gave time that in next 48 hours he will be in house. he speaks less but wisely.
So that’s all about the housemates and all the programme is moving around them about there activities in the house,36 cameras in the house, Even single minute no housemate is allowed to put there speaker away. When Raja Chaudary was away mean out from the house in front of him everybody was good in talking, nice behavior but when he was out then venom was out from everybody’s talk against him, or relating to his nature. I also find this true always when a person is not present then everybody talk about his behavior, pick negative he has as he comes in front then there behavior change towards him….What a Contrast ?
Monday, October 13, 2008
Indian Married Men & Law
In India not only law exit for the help of married woman if she face problem after marriage but also lot of NGO exit for the welfare of married woman, but I have seen lot of cases in which girl side take misuse exiting law despite no fault of Man ( Husband ),and the law is much in favour of girl that lot of time even boy side was not allow to put there side freely,Today I am going to mentioned below a real story of my friend who despite his no fault become victim of such law.
In the first week of December 2004 my friend was seen first time by his would be in laws by his would be two brother in law who were one was in army as colonel second lawyer, my friend told his each and every thing relating to him to her would be wife’s brothers, both were impressed with the nature and straight forwardness, and said we like the boy and after next week onwards days are not good to celebrate any auspicious event like marriage as per Hindu culture so settle the date for marriage after week, girl side want to celebrate the marriage with pump and show, but my friend want his marriage solemnize simple and want to take girl in his house with simple ceremony, and from boy side there was total 20 members of there house ( as they have joint family ) and in the hall it appear as if it was the function of girl side as all around there was girl side known were seen. My friend not take anything whom we call dowry, even girl came in his house with two suits, with some jewellery.
On first time interaction/meeting with girl My friend got first words from her mouth as answer from girl that I don’t want to do marriage, my brothers forcibly married, if you also do anything forcibly then I will die, My friend stun with girl’s such rude behaviour, why she saying/using such words ,thought slowly she will adjust here then everything will be smooth for him and his family, but he was not aware that it was going for him and his family a nightmare. She live with my friend one week then visit her house, but her stay in her in law was as such as if she is counting the days to go back to her house and during her stay of one week, she didn’t do any household work like cleaning her clarification was that she had dust allergy, she not did any kitchen work, not even try to set the blanket of her room where she use to sleep, her mother in law was doing all the work as she was doing before get one additional Burdon of her daughter in law. She went to her mother house with her lawyer brother who used to do practice on every Friday in his brother in law city.
After one week over , he phone to her sister in law house please do allow her to stay in her mother house for one month, Boys father reply how she will settle if she use to stay in her house for week or month and more over there marriage was held just two week back. she came to her in law house with her brother and this time very much aggressive and said why you was so eager to call me back when I had gone then I had to return but if I spent there some time it was good for me. and she get negative advice from her mother who was dominate person in there house and even she was not respecting her husband and said do with your husband and his family as I am doing with your father and other.
Now She was acting to spoil the peace of the family and start fighting on small/everything, what ever her husband says she acts opposite of it, and it start effecting on to the boy and his family and even boys mother become victim of blood pressure disease. My Friend’s life becomes hell, he was sandwich between his wife and family. He love his family and want that his wife settle in her new environment.
Then they went out station for some fun, understanding and enjoyment. There my friend find her behavior more rude. She instead cooperating always oppose to him, if he ask to hand over anything instead helping him response negative and argue. They had programmed to stay out for one week but it has to be cut short because of girls negative behavior.
Then on one day She speak loudly in front of her husband and in laws, It hurt her in laws parents, because they were living in joint family and it make shameful to them in front of other relatives, Same time they manage to make contact with her brother who was lawyer, instead feeling sorry for her behavior she said why you need to call my brother I will call him and saying I will die. When her brother came asked why you call me, ask from her sister what’s wrong, do they beat you is? Demand anything? Her reply was no, and said they ask me to to household work and some time they wrap curtain of door and I feel cold .He advise her and said his brother in law and his parents that this time when she will visit her house I will teach her to live properly.
Then she live with my friend and his family without showing interest to adjust there family for ten days, and then his brother came and take her with him and said he will take her back after three days, after passing four days when they not send back there daughter my friend went to there house to take her back, there he was insulted by her family ,where he did nothing wrong blame by girl and her family you misbehave with my mother. When asked what I did wrong will you please explain ? They were answer less with this question?
But when in the evening boy and girl sit together girl said why you went our house? why you talk with my mother ? You need not to visit our house in future.
Only spending twelve days with family she again gone back to her house and her behavior was as it was ,reason she gone back to her house as boys brother was coming next few days from abroad, she requested them she will not find time to visit her house after spending some time she will return. After passing time of four days she not returned neither her brother was lifting phone, when his brother came to India he along with there sister and husband went to her house to take back. There they were welcome with negative behavior girl not come in front of them, her mother who was boss of house came and said she wont go there now, people separate after there marriage if they will then there will be no harm, MY both sons’ one lawyer was there pointing towards him said not told me, had they told me then I would have been deny this marriage ?Now both face the out come.
Same days they phone to Col and told him about the development. He said just wait for me this Sunday I will be in my house and settle the case.Then On Sunday he visited his house and there he enquired the girl side problem. then next day he came along with his younger brother lawyer and there he met with elder brother and there sister. first both were telling we had also some problem collected from girl, and written on paper but asked do tell us about girl. When they describe that girl was saying I was not interested for marriage my brothers’ forcible married me, then she was lying that she had dust allergy and because of this not doing any work, neither she wash clothes even once despite her stay with her in laws for almost three months, she speak on the face of her elder, and always say I will die I will die, in less then three months time she said these words more then twenty times.
Her elder brother comes to her in laws house and request all the family members that do give me one month time I will advise her,if she wont agreed then I will give you in writing no body point fingers towards you as we have solemnized marriage very simple we have not give anything. I will phone you after one month. Then he took her with him where he was doing sevice,after passing mentioned time when he did not phone my friend’s elder brother phone him he said she has her own problem and don’t want to go there .I will go there on coming Sunday and as promise will settle the case.
After this conversation they never comes in front to settle case, but my friend side doing all the best to settle case mutually, but unfortunately there words are lying on every promise they were making, and it keeping family more tense.
After passing two years one day they inform my friends’ family that let us settle case, as it was law if couple living separately for more then two years then its very solid ground of divorce. It was threat to settle case because girls brother was speaking from the house of M.P. of district, he was not only M.P. but also Party President of the state Unit, he was her lawyer’s brother preceptor under whom he begin practice. There both parties put there side, as friend have not take anything he [M.P. ]said do treat this case as of family we will settle this case mutually ,do come up with there expenses in next meeting I will settle this which will be accepted to both side. After week time both side gather again but M.P. was out station, there her lawyer brother was ready or have in mind to fight with them, it need little bit aggression from boy side, but they were accepting every word. Lawyer said we need all the gold which at the time of marriage we give to my friends family that was one ring to friend,a chain, one ring to his father, and one ring to there brother in law plus 100,000 rs,Surprise to hear his demand as they have not take anything instead accepting there mistake as her sister was not ready to be united again, they are demanding.
Next meeting both parties and M.P. was present and handing over gold plus 50,000 it was settled, and next day case file for divorce, after first hearing next date was after six months time. and after next hearing they were separate.
Above coded shows that how girl side misuse the law, despite mistake of there girl, if they are power full having lawyer, army personnel and politician at there side, as boy have not take anything despite he comes out the trap of marriage giving money, live under harassment of three years.
For the benefit of all the boys who have same problems from there in law side my friend make a NGO which fight for the right of Boy who unnecessarily harass by there in laws, having retired person from the field of police, currently practicing lawyer.
In the first week of December 2004 my friend was seen first time by his would be in laws by his would be two brother in law who were one was in army as colonel second lawyer, my friend told his each and every thing relating to him to her would be wife’s brothers, both were impressed with the nature and straight forwardness, and said we like the boy and after next week onwards days are not good to celebrate any auspicious event like marriage as per Hindu culture so settle the date for marriage after week, girl side want to celebrate the marriage with pump and show, but my friend want his marriage solemnize simple and want to take girl in his house with simple ceremony, and from boy side there was total 20 members of there house ( as they have joint family ) and in the hall it appear as if it was the function of girl side as all around there was girl side known were seen. My friend not take anything whom we call dowry, even girl came in his house with two suits, with some jewellery.
On first time interaction/meeting with girl My friend got first words from her mouth as answer from girl that I don’t want to do marriage, my brothers forcibly married, if you also do anything forcibly then I will die, My friend stun with girl’s such rude behaviour, why she saying/using such words ,thought slowly she will adjust here then everything will be smooth for him and his family, but he was not aware that it was going for him and his family a nightmare. She live with my friend one week then visit her house, but her stay in her in law was as such as if she is counting the days to go back to her house and during her stay of one week, she didn’t do any household work like cleaning her clarification was that she had dust allergy, she not did any kitchen work, not even try to set the blanket of her room where she use to sleep, her mother in law was doing all the work as she was doing before get one additional Burdon of her daughter in law. She went to her mother house with her lawyer brother who used to do practice on every Friday in his brother in law city.
After one week over , he phone to her sister in law house please do allow her to stay in her mother house for one month, Boys father reply how she will settle if she use to stay in her house for week or month and more over there marriage was held just two week back. she came to her in law house with her brother and this time very much aggressive and said why you was so eager to call me back when I had gone then I had to return but if I spent there some time it was good for me. and she get negative advice from her mother who was dominate person in there house and even she was not respecting her husband and said do with your husband and his family as I am doing with your father and other.
Now She was acting to spoil the peace of the family and start fighting on small/everything, what ever her husband says she acts opposite of it, and it start effecting on to the boy and his family and even boys mother become victim of blood pressure disease. My Friend’s life becomes hell, he was sandwich between his wife and family. He love his family and want that his wife settle in her new environment.
Then they went out station for some fun, understanding and enjoyment. There my friend find her behavior more rude. She instead cooperating always oppose to him, if he ask to hand over anything instead helping him response negative and argue. They had programmed to stay out for one week but it has to be cut short because of girls negative behavior.
Then on one day She speak loudly in front of her husband and in laws, It hurt her in laws parents, because they were living in joint family and it make shameful to them in front of other relatives, Same time they manage to make contact with her brother who was lawyer, instead feeling sorry for her behavior she said why you need to call my brother I will call him and saying I will die. When her brother came asked why you call me, ask from her sister what’s wrong, do they beat you is? Demand anything? Her reply was no, and said they ask me to to household work and some time they wrap curtain of door and I feel cold .He advise her and said his brother in law and his parents that this time when she will visit her house I will teach her to live properly.
Then she live with my friend and his family without showing interest to adjust there family for ten days, and then his brother came and take her with him and said he will take her back after three days, after passing four days when they not send back there daughter my friend went to there house to take her back, there he was insulted by her family ,where he did nothing wrong blame by girl and her family you misbehave with my mother. When asked what I did wrong will you please explain ? They were answer less with this question?
But when in the evening boy and girl sit together girl said why you went our house? why you talk with my mother ? You need not to visit our house in future.
Only spending twelve days with family she again gone back to her house and her behavior was as it was ,reason she gone back to her house as boys brother was coming next few days from abroad, she requested them she will not find time to visit her house after spending some time she will return. After passing time of four days she not returned neither her brother was lifting phone, when his brother came to India he along with there sister and husband went to her house to take back. There they were welcome with negative behavior girl not come in front of them, her mother who was boss of house came and said she wont go there now, people separate after there marriage if they will then there will be no harm, MY both sons’ one lawyer was there pointing towards him said not told me, had they told me then I would have been deny this marriage ?Now both face the out come.
Same days they phone to Col and told him about the development. He said just wait for me this Sunday I will be in my house and settle the case.Then On Sunday he visited his house and there he enquired the girl side problem. then next day he came along with his younger brother lawyer and there he met with elder brother and there sister. first both were telling we had also some problem collected from girl, and written on paper but asked do tell us about girl. When they describe that girl was saying I was not interested for marriage my brothers’ forcible married me, then she was lying that she had dust allergy and because of this not doing any work, neither she wash clothes even once despite her stay with her in laws for almost three months, she speak on the face of her elder, and always say I will die I will die, in less then three months time she said these words more then twenty times.
Her elder brother comes to her in laws house and request all the family members that do give me one month time I will advise her,if she wont agreed then I will give you in writing no body point fingers towards you as we have solemnized marriage very simple we have not give anything. I will phone you after one month. Then he took her with him where he was doing sevice,after passing mentioned time when he did not phone my friend’s elder brother phone him he said she has her own problem and don’t want to go there .I will go there on coming Sunday and as promise will settle the case.
After this conversation they never comes in front to settle case, but my friend side doing all the best to settle case mutually, but unfortunately there words are lying on every promise they were making, and it keeping family more tense.
After passing two years one day they inform my friends’ family that let us settle case, as it was law if couple living separately for more then two years then its very solid ground of divorce. It was threat to settle case because girls brother was speaking from the house of M.P. of district, he was not only M.P. but also Party President of the state Unit, he was her lawyer’s brother preceptor under whom he begin practice. There both parties put there side, as friend have not take anything he [M.P. ]said do treat this case as of family we will settle this case mutually ,do come up with there expenses in next meeting I will settle this which will be accepted to both side. After week time both side gather again but M.P. was out station, there her lawyer brother was ready or have in mind to fight with them, it need little bit aggression from boy side, but they were accepting every word. Lawyer said we need all the gold which at the time of marriage we give to my friends family that was one ring to friend,a chain, one ring to his father, and one ring to there brother in law plus 100,000 rs,Surprise to hear his demand as they have not take anything instead accepting there mistake as her sister was not ready to be united again, they are demanding.
Next meeting both parties and M.P. was present and handing over gold plus 50,000 it was settled, and next day case file for divorce, after first hearing next date was after six months time. and after next hearing they were separate.
Above coded shows that how girl side misuse the law, despite mistake of there girl, if they are power full having lawyer, army personnel and politician at there side, as boy have not take anything despite he comes out the trap of marriage giving money, live under harassment of three years.
For the benefit of all the boys who have same problems from there in law side my friend make a NGO which fight for the right of Boy who unnecessarily harass by there in laws, having retired person from the field of police, currently practicing lawyer.
Monday, October 06, 2008
Money, Corruption and India
Money is important part of Human life, but Money is not Life
But above coded line seem to be part of saying only as all around one will find everybody is running/chasing money and want to grab as much as he can and its no harm to earn money but earning by unfair mean leads to downfall of character/personality and its bad for society also. In the blind race of earning money people are doing as much worse as they can like producing adulterated eatable stuff, duplicate medicine and duplicate milk. The biggest problem for the consumer is that duplicate stuff is prepare with such a finish no body can point the finger that this is original or duplicate. It effect badly and most of time life threatening.
Despite privatization of lot of sector some still are run by Government department like Electricity, post department, Municipal Corporation.Transport, Passport office, Police department etc.etc or in general term all the major, basic necessity items are provided/run by the government agency and that’s why common people on daily base average two to three time face government department to get his work done, but when he faces the bureaucrats. There he face lot of problems as the concern department from everybody despite being genuine ask money to have his work done, if he deny to give money then his work takes weeks to accomplish and the worst part is that there is no body senior of same department to address his problem or in other words it takes weeks which are of hours, and lot of department ask money as if they are obliging .There is separate department for common people if any government department ask for bribe but because of two reason people avoid to make contact one they have in mind why to become enemy of the person and don’t know if he will powerful then he can face problem ,second it will effect his family members unnecessarily.
In my opinion major reason for corruption is inflation and in India more then fifty percent are doing there own work and rising inflation they unable to adjust there basic need expenses and other expenses, because of it they do unfair stuff to get control of there expenses, which give sharp rise to corruption and it effect on to common people. Black marketers make the think in the market short of supply ,then user has to purchase it from available point by giving extra money.
If any of my reader also face problem then he can add his comments which will be helpful to other reader .
But above coded line seem to be part of saying only as all around one will find everybody is running/chasing money and want to grab as much as he can and its no harm to earn money but earning by unfair mean leads to downfall of character/personality and its bad for society also. In the blind race of earning money people are doing as much worse as they can like producing adulterated eatable stuff, duplicate medicine and duplicate milk. The biggest problem for the consumer is that duplicate stuff is prepare with such a finish no body can point the finger that this is original or duplicate. It effect badly and most of time life threatening.
Despite privatization of lot of sector some still are run by Government department like Electricity, post department, Municipal Corporation.Transport, Passport office, Police department etc.etc or in general term all the major, basic necessity items are provided/run by the government agency and that’s why common people on daily base average two to three time face government department to get his work done, but when he faces the bureaucrats. There he face lot of problems as the concern department from everybody despite being genuine ask money to have his work done, if he deny to give money then his work takes weeks to accomplish and the worst part is that there is no body senior of same department to address his problem or in other words it takes weeks which are of hours, and lot of department ask money as if they are obliging .There is separate department for common people if any government department ask for bribe but because of two reason people avoid to make contact one they have in mind why to become enemy of the person and don’t know if he will powerful then he can face problem ,second it will effect his family members unnecessarily.
In my opinion major reason for corruption is inflation and in India more then fifty percent are doing there own work and rising inflation they unable to adjust there basic need expenses and other expenses, because of it they do unfair stuff to get control of there expenses, which give sharp rise to corruption and it effect on to common people. Black marketers make the think in the market short of supply ,then user has to purchase it from available point by giving extra money.
If any of my reader also face problem then he can add his comments which will be helpful to other reader .
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